The 2.problem: i did what you advised but now i can't start lighttpd
error message:
Starting lighttpd: 2008-10-18 14:22:26: (configfile.c.236) server.stat-cache-engine can be one of "disable", "simple", but not: fam [FAILED]

i don't know if that's important but now i'm trying to test if it works withous that...